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May 05, 2008

Man Wins Right To Take Wife's Surname As His Own
— Ace

All Michael Buday wanted to do was take the last name of his wife, Diana Bijon, when they married.
But it took two years, a lawsuit alleging sex discrimination and a change in California law before he picked up his new drivers license in the name of Michael Bijon on Monday.
"It was personal. I feel much closer to (Diana's) father than I do mine. She asked me to take her name and I thought it would be very simple. I never imagined the state would make it so difficult," Michael Bijon, 31, told reporters.
...
After months of frustration, the Los Angeles computer programmer and his ER nurse wife Diana, 29, took their problem to the American Civil Liberties Union of Southern California.
A double barrel name would have been no problem, nor would Diana and Michael deciding to each keep their birth names. But California and some 40 other U.S. states provided no place on the marriage license application, and driving license, for the groom to choose the bride's surname.

Portly Pirate calls this the ultimate in P-whippitude, but...

Buday... or Bijon? Question: If you're a guy with a lame last name and your wife has a better one, is there any allowance here?

What if you were dating, say, a girl with the last name Reagan, for example? And your own last name was Lipshitz?

Not good enough? Okay, what if she's part Commanche Indian and her real given last name is Skywalker? You still gonna cling to your lame name out of a sense of patriarchal obligation, huh?

Not me. I'd be Ace Skywalker so fast it would make your head spin, buddy.

Posted by: Ace at 01:01 PM | Comments (72)
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1 Fuck you funny boy.

Posted by: Neal Lipshitz at May 05, 2008 01:03 PM (Am6n/)

2 Oh, boo hoo hoo! He could have just gone to court and changed his name. Instead, he wanted the right to change it like a girl. For all the whining about equal rights and going to the aclu, he could have done it in less time by going to court.

Posted by: Guy Ritchie's Career at May 05, 2008 01:07 PM (mUMon)

3 GRC nailed it. The guy could have changed his name to anything he wanted, like lots of people do. This dingleberry just wanted to whine about something.

Posted by: right at May 05, 2008 01:09 PM (EquV1)

4 Guy Ritchie's Career hits it on the head. because at the end of the day, only whiny little bitches behave like this. I had a friend, in California, who hated his father, so when he got married he took his wife's name. He just changed it. That's all. No fuss, no muss.

Posted by: iamnotachef at May 05, 2008 01:11 PM (nwJit)

5 It's a lot less strange than those hypenated names to me.
What happens when two people marry who both already have hyphenated names?

Do they end up with a last name blah-blah-blah-blah?

Posted by: Village Idiot at May 05, 2008 01:12 PM (YxZ4s)

6 Or why not put the chick down as the groom and the tantrum-thrower as the bride.
They'd fit right in out there.

Posted by: right at May 05, 2008 01:13 PM (EquV1)

7 I agree with everyone. Especially Lipshitz.

Posted by: right at May 05, 2008 01:14 PM (EquV1)

8 She just didn't want a name that sounded like, "Die on a bidet".

Posted by: jd at May 05, 2008 01:15 PM (jTT87)

9 Ace, Ewoks can't have Jedi names, can they ?

If you went with "Ace Paploo" that might be more realistic

Posted by: Carl in N.H. at May 05, 2008 01:16 PM (np5R1)

10 jd

good stuff

Posted by: right at May 05, 2008 01:17 PM (EquV1)

11 >>Oh, boo hoo hoo! He could have just gone to court and changed his name. So, Ace Skywalker it is then?

Posted by: JackStraw at May 05, 2008 01:22 PM (t+mja)

12 It's real easy to say it will never happen to you. But then fate comes along and you bump into the girl of your dreams, and she introduces herself as Dominque Cuntpuncher.

Posted by: John Thundercock at May 05, 2008 01:22 PM (GMyE2)

13 Ok #12 wins

Next thread.

Posted by: JavaJoe at May 05, 2008 01:26 PM (Am6n/)

14 i don't see what the big deal is, myself.

Posted by: Steven C. Fuckface at May 05, 2008 01:26 PM (SXBHu)

15 Sorry, this is just pathetic, but less so than the couples who make up a new last name for both of them.

Posted by: Christopher Taylor at May 05, 2008 01:27 PM (3+3kx)

16 What a lameass. Seriously. Might as well put his testicles in a jar.

Posted by: Ken at May 05, 2008 01:27 PM (nWF7o)

17 Yes, 12 wins.

Except for... confusing the joke. Granted, Cuntpuncher is an awesome last name, but why would John Thundercock want to change his?

Too much in one joke, John Thundercock.

But still pretty fucking awesome.

Posted by: ace at May 05, 2008 01:28 PM (SXBHu)

18 It could be just a bad dyslexic problem here, Michael meaning "Godlike" and Bijon meaning "Dog". Either way he is a pussy.

Posted by: Knuckles Cheez at May 05, 2008 01:28 PM (h/5U0)

19 Call me old fashioned, but I'm a traditional gal and I think the woman should take her husband's name.

Posted by: Stefanie Fairchild Herringtwat at May 05, 2008 01:29 PM (SXBHu)

20 I'm not fond of the double-surname, either. My parents did it, and it still sticks in my craw.

Posted by: John Charles Princess-Tinymeat at May 05, 2008 01:33 PM (SXBHu)

21 Posted by: ace at May 05, 2008 06:28 PM (SXBHu)

Thats when you go hyphenated. Thundercock-Cuntpuncher.

Posted by: AR at May 05, 2008 01:35 PM (WM59p)

22 So I took her last name, what's the big deal?

Posted by: Vijay Jay at May 05, 2008 01:39 PM (t+mja)

23 Oh the dilemma.

When you meet the girl of your dreams Sally Squeekhole.

Posted by: Kyle Meatwhistle at May 05, 2008 01:43 PM (Am6n/)

24 If you're a guy with a lame last name and your wife has a better one, is there any allowance here?

The diminutive of Bijon is BlowJob. He'll forever be call Blowjob.

Posted by: Guy Ritchie's Career at May 05, 2008 01:44 PM (w62PO)

25 You know, if you want a last name of Skywalker you can always legally change it instead of waiting around hoping to marry some Indian with the name you want, dumbass.

And here I thought ace had balls. My whole world has fallen apart now.

Posted by: Lincoln at May 05, 2008 01:44 PM (ExJZV)

26 I would only take the last name of the daughter of a Sith Lord. . . Ace's! I could be MCPO Spades!

Posted by: MCPO Airdale at May 05, 2008 01:45 PM (dk4kH)

Heh. Skywalker. Dude, you know how many times you're gonna hear this when you screw up:

"The force is weak in this one. Hahahahahahahaha!"

Posted by: Ace's liver at May 05, 2008 01:47 PM (eSqCK)

28 You guys have to see this. This where the sickofreakdaughterrapist will end up:

Link

Posted by: Guy Ritchie's Career at May 05, 2008 01:54 PM (vQs67)

29 Names are considered chattel. They can be changed at any time, and for any reason whatsoever, so long as you not attempting to perpetrate a fraud. The court would, at most, confirm the change.

All he really had to do was start using her name, and filing name change paperwork with the various agencies - not to seek permission, but merely to inform them of the change.

Posted by: Drumwaster at May 05, 2008 01:57 PM (e9zFE)

30 I always thought the bride takes the groom's name thing was more a matter of tradition not regulation.

Posted by: chrisbg99 at May 05, 2008 02:01 PM (yZtXY)

31 However, hyphenates can be murder. I read about this young couple, Patrick Leahy and Vivian Hu. They married and hyphenated (his name, followed by hers), and she soon ended up pregnant.

Seems they were also both big Spielberg fans, too, and named their son after one of their favorite movies heroes, the elfin Jedi Master who taught both young Ben Kenobi and Luke Skywalker.

(waits for penny to drop...)

Posted by: Drumwaster at May 05, 2008 02:02 PM (e9zFE)

32 The house wins with 21.

Posted by: Loren Heal at May 05, 2008 02:04 PM (AyPvz)

33 I bet he drinks Chardonnay and watches Oprah too.

Posted by: runninrebel at May 05, 2008 02:06 PM (0n9wc)

34 My wife and I made up a new name. If you don't like it, take a big bite.

Of course, I didn't like her ex-husbands name that she was still using, and since I found out late in life that my; wasn't.

It seemed like a no-brainer to me.

I'm happy with the change and will never look back. So is she.

Posted by: XD45c at May 05, 2008 02:10 PM (uabyl)

35 Edit - forgot a word....

Of course, I didn't like her ex-husbands name that she was still using, and since I found out late in life that my father; wasn't.

Posted by: XD45c at May 05, 2008 02:11 PM (uabyl)

36 I'm waiting for the sequel to Thundercock and the mutant Cuntpunchers.

Posted by: JavaJoe at May 05, 2008 02:21 PM (Am6n/)

Meh; sure- he could've gone to court to get it changed, but he does have a point that women can do it by filling out a line on a form when they get married, where men have to go through the trouble of court.

But still (with rare exceptions) a guy taking his wife's name is probably going to feel stupid when they divorce a year later when he's caught blowing 15 dudes at the nearest highway rest stop.

Posted by: Hollowpoint at May 05, 2008 02:25 PM (rf03a)

38 If a guy asked to take my last name, I'd make him wear the dress.

Posted by: Joanie at May 05, 2008 02:30 PM (Yyy1m)

39 Awesome last name or crappy last name, it would just feel like treason towards your ancestors.

Along those lines, I guess it would make a difference how prevalent your last name is and how large your family is - in my case, no way.

Posted by: AD at May 05, 2008 02:30 PM (vYzH/)

Dave Joanie.

Nope. Don't like it.

Posted by: Dave in Texas at May 05, 2008 02:32 PM (Kz86N)

41 Skywalker? Skywalker? That's for children. You take an adult name. Like Vader, for instance. Yeah, Vader has a nice ring to it.

Posted by: Darth Randall at May 05, 2008 02:37 PM (oLULt)

42 Sigh. He should just be happy he could meet someone.

Posted by: Susan Ballbuster at May 05, 2008 02:37 PM (EnTg0)

43 #31 wins...pay the man, Shirley.

Posted by: Windrider95 at May 05, 2008 02:41 PM (z6VRq)

I think a lot depends on the circumstances. In the past, in most cases I would have expected the guy to be a pussy. Then I nearly took my wife's name, so that changed my thinking. My father was a prick, who was adopted, so no concerns over ancestry and the bonus was her name was a lot shorter. I would have liked a shorter name, but in the end I decided I didn't feel like going through all the paperwork, so I let her do it. I went short term big lazy over long term very little lazy.

Posted by: TheDude at May 05, 2008 02:43 PM (kIkai)

45 God, I HATED my given name! It was Kuntz -- pronounced "Koonts," but everyone gets that wrong. God, that was embarrassing, and the jokes just never stopped.

But now I've married the man of my dreams and said goodbye to that dreadful name. And no longer do I fear people giggling about my last name!

Posted by: Sherri Furburger at May 05, 2008 02:48 PM (SXBHu)

46 Furburger, meet Cuntpuncher.

Posted by: John Cuntpuncher (nee Thundercock) at May 05, 2008 03:00 PM (GMyE2)

47 I used to work with a gal whose maiden name was Kuhnt, she INSISTED it was pronounced kyewnt. I blame her not one bit for taking her husband's name when she married. And I wouldn't have blamed her husband for taking her name if the names had been reversed.

Posted by: Alice H at May 05, 2008 03:03 PM (jRtPb)

48 TheDude, just chant this: I must not be lazy. lazy is the mind-killer. lazy is the long-name that brings total obliteration. I will face my lazy. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the lazy has gone there will be nothing. Only a short name will remain.

Posted by: Ace's liver at May 05, 2008 03:05 PM (eSqCK)

49 Not me. I'd be Ace Skywalker so fast it would make your head spin, buddy.

Oh please... we all know that what's you call yourself in private anyway. Just go ahead and make it legal.

Posted by: Evil Otto at May 05, 2008 03:08 PM (08dnm)

50 I have no problems with my family name. Neither does my sister Beery. Ace would like her. She's a lot of fun after she's had a few.

Posted by: Pervy Grin at May 05, 2008 03:09 PM (ZYo70)

51 It is simpler. The law concerned spelling, but didn't say squat about pronunciation. So spell it "Buday" and pronounce it "Bijon", and there ya are.

Or simply file notice of intent to change your name with the local magistrate.

Posted by: mojo at May 05, 2008 03:09 PM (9n70a)

52 At a software company I worked for, I had a friend named Tracy Whitman. Her user id was twhit.

She gladly took her husband's last name when she married, and insisted on a new user id.

Todd Winkle wasn't so lucky.

Posted by: JayC at May 05, 2008 03:13 PM (krZSy)

I knew a guy with the last name of Seaman. He changed it to Webster.

Posted by: John F Not Kerry at May 05, 2008 03:21 PM (HF2US)

My favorite (real) name I have ever encountered is Holly Firehammer. It's in Minnesota, so it's probably a Scandi name, but it is awesome nonetheless.

Posted by: John F Not Kerry at May 05, 2008 03:23 PM (HF2US)

55 I worked with a guy who changed his name around the same time as he got married - but not to his wife's name. Apparently he was related to the famous anthropologist Tom Dillehay, and went with that so his wife could have that name instead.

Perhaps if I'd had similar dad issues and was related to the Islamic scholar J. W. Fück...

Posted by: David Ross at May 05, 2008 03:31 PM (AvUHE)

56 Prince John: Such an unusual name, "Latrine." How did your family come by it?
Latrine: We changed it in the 9th century.
Prince John: You mean you changed it TO "Latrine"?
Latrine: Yeah. Used to be "Shithouse."
Prince John: It's a good change. That's a good change!

Posted by: Fa Cube Itches at May 05, 2008 04:00 PM (H8H67)

57 In all honesty, when I got married, my wife didn't want to change her name (she just liked it and was used to it), but her family, generally pitched a fit at the idea of either hyphenating (which I don't care for, anyway, for many reasons) or both of us keeping our own names. I then offered to take her family name (to keep peace in the family, and her family really is quite nice and because I have no lack of a sense of who I am *and* I already had children with my name), but we ended up each keeping our own name.
Until she died, my wife's grandmother sent me a small check for my birthday with the notation inside, "take your roommate to lunch" to which I always replied with a thank-you note that said, "thanks, but since I don't have a roommate I hope you won't mind that I took my wife." She also addressed all mail to us: Mr. and Mrs. (My Last Name).
After almost twenty years the rest seem to have adapted.

Posted by: JorgXMcKie at May 05, 2008 04:42 PM (3fkIA)

58 Michael Buday is a faggot.

Seriously, what kind of nancy changes their name to their wife's name?

Posted by: thebronze at May 05, 2008 05:03 PM (kdYxN)

59 You know, I've toyed with this idea myself. And (after 6-8 beers) my dad admitted he did as well. Mom's name is simple, dad's ain't.

When you have to spell your f***ing last name over and over again, and retards can't even say something recognizable when they read it, you have to wonder if maybe a last name like "Smith" might be easier to handle. Seriously like half a dozen times in my life I've failed to recognize my own damn name when someone was reading it... and that's just stupid.

I'd give my last name here, but I'm not going to (as it isn't common enough to stay anonymous).

But I can say one thing. P and H together sound like a goddamn F. I can actually feel my blood pressure rise when I hear people try to pronounce both letters.

Posted by: Gekkobear at May 05, 2008 07:04 PM (Lnai+)

60 My name is spelt 'Luxury Yacht' but it's pronounced 'Throatwobbler Mangrove'.

Posted by: Raymond Luxury Yacht at May 05, 2008 07:26 PM (wPV6L)

When you have to spell your f***ing last name over and over again, and retards can't even say something recognizable when they read it, you have to wonder if maybe a last name like "Smith" might be easier to handle.

I have the same problem. My last name has silent letters in it. Every time I give it to someone, I pronounce it, then spell it. They still either misspell it or mispronounce it, or both.

Posted by: Steve L. at May 06, 2008 02:36 AM (o0YD+)

In this vein, I still think Jacqueline Mackey Paisley-Passey should hook up with Joshua Micah-Marshall and become Jacqueline Mackey Paisley-Passey-Micah-Marshall.

Name's so damn long I had to copy and paste.

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Posted by: JohnW at May 06, 2008 06:04 AM (tUCX3)

Enh, at least they know your name is a last name. Every teacher and boss I've ever had calls me by my last name, thinking it's my first name. Then I get clumsy thalidomide babies saying "Whoa, what if your last name was your first name? That would be funny! Ha ha!" as though this insight had been writ across the sky by the Hand of God and had never before been beheld by the human mind.

And then I pull their pants down and punch them in the vagina.

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